This space holds both heartbreak and love. Emily was taken from us in a way that never should have happened, and the pain of that reality stays with us. Even as time passes, we return to who she was. A kind, radiant soul whose life continues to shine through the people who loved her.
Emily’s presence lives on in our hearts, in our love, and in the lives she touched.
It is the reflection of a life lived with love and light.
A life that made a difference.
A life that still leaves its mark.
Our lives are better because of Emily.
She left an unforgettable impression on everyone she met.
Her tragic passing left an ache in the hearts of everyone who knew and loved her,
yet her impact continues to resonate in every life she touched.
Her spirit remains strong, a reminder that there is power in love,
in connection,
and in standing together to honor her life and legacy.
When we stand with Emily, we carry her light forward,
not just in memory, but in how we choose to live each day.
Emily Steinhoff James poured her heart into everything she did. She served her country with pride as an Army veteran, stood up for others as a public defender, and brought her sense of purpose into every corner of her life. After earning her law degree from UNC Chapel Hill, she began her legal career in South Dakota, advocating for those who needed a voice. Years earlier, both her brother and sister had moved from South Dakota to North Carolina because of Emily. She later moved back to North Carolina to be near them.
Her dedication extended far beyond the courtroom. Emily was a creative spirit who played a vibrant role in the Raleigh arts scene, both on stage and behind the scenes at Raleigh Little Theatre. She had a gift for connecting people, creating beauty, and building community through her passion for performance.
Above all else, Emily loved deeply. She was a devoted mother, and Miles is now growing up without the person who meant the world to him. She would have championed him through every stage of life. The loss of that bond is profound—one no child should have to face.
Emily was someone people looked up to. She listened without judgment, offered steady guidance, and lifted others up with encouragement and humor. Her presence brought comfort, her words carried weight, and her support never wavered.
She was someone who loved with her words. Her messages, texts, and social media comments were filled with affirmation, kindness, and care. We are grateful to have those words to hold onto. They continue to speak life, comfort, and connection even in her absence.
What Emily gave to others lives on in the way she made people feel seen, in the warmth of her words, and in the countless lives she touched with her generosity of spirit.
Emily Steinhoff James, proudly serving in the U.S. Army, a testament to her courage, dedication, and unwavering commitment to helping others.
Emily crowned winner at Raleigh Little Theatre’s 2020 Divas! competition, honoring her talent and commitment to supporting the arts.
Emily was glowing with joy during her pregnancy, embracing the journey to motherhood.
Emily’s love for the arts was evident in her work with Raleigh Little Theatre, where she participated in productions, served as an assistant stage manager, and was crowned RLT Diva in 2020. Her passion for theatre brought joy to many and showcased her incredible talents. Learn more about her involvement here.