This space holds both heartbreak and love. Emily was taken from us in a way that never should have happened, and the weight of that loss remains. Yet as time passes, we continue to return to who she was: a kind, radiant soul whose light still shines through those who love her.
Her presence lives on in our hearts and in the many lives she touched. It is a reflection of a life filled with compassion, purpose, and joy—a life that made a lasting difference.
We are better for having known Emily. When we stand with her, we carry her light forward, not only in memory but in the way we choose to live each day.
Emily Steinhoff James poured her heart into everything she did. She served her country with pride as an Army veteran, stood up for others as a public defender, and brought her sense of purpose into every corner of her life. After earning her law degree from UNC Chapel Hill, she began her legal career in South Dakota, advocating for those who needed a voice. Years earlier, both her brother and sister had moved from South Dakota to North Carolina because of Emily. She later moved back to North Carolina to be near them.
Her dedication extended far beyond the courtroom. Emily was a creative spirit who played a vibrant role in the Raleigh arts scene, both on stage and behind the scenes at Raleigh Little Theatre. She had a gift for connecting people, creating beauty, and building community through her passion for performance.
Above all else, Emily loved deeply. She was a devoted mother, and Miles is now growing up without the person who meant the world to him. She would have championed him through every stage of life. The loss of that bond is profound—one no child should have to face.
Emily was someone people looked up to. She listened without judgment, offered steady guidance, and lifted others up with encouragement and humor. Her presence brought comfort, her words carried weight, and her support never wavered.
She was someone who loved with her words. Her messages, texts, and social media comments were filled with affirmation, kindness, and care. We are grateful to have those words to hold onto. They continue to speak life, comfort, and connection even in her absence.
What Emily gave to others lives on in the way she made people feel seen, in the warmth of her words, and in the countless lives she touched with her generosity of spirit.
Emily proudly serving in the U.S. Army, a testament to her courage, dedication, and unwavering commitment to helping others.
Emily crowned winner at Raleigh Little Theatre’s 2020 Divas! competition, honoring her talent and commitment to supporting the arts.
Emily was glowing with joy during her pregnancy, embracing the journey to motherhood.
Emily’s love for the arts was evident in her work with Raleigh Little Theatre, where she participated in productions, served as an assistant stage manager, and was crowned RLT Diva in 2020. Her passion for theatre brought joy to many and showcased her incredible talents. Learn more about her involvement here.